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How Should I Think About Heavenly Mother?

What Do We Know About Our Mother in Heaven?

You may have heard that Latter-day Saints believe in a Mother in Heaven and then wondered why so little is said about Her. Maybe you want to learn more but have not found many answers. You may also wonder whether the silence means that something is being hidden from you.

Those are reasonable questions. The doctrine is important, and the limited information can feel confusing.

The best place to begin is with what has actually been revealed. We know that we are children of Heavenly Parents. We do not know Her name, what She is like in detail, or whether we should pray to Her. The Church has not taught beyond what God has revealed. Both parts matter: the doctrine is real, and the information we have about Her is limited.

We Are Children of Heavenly Parents

The Family: A Proclamation to the World teaches that each person is “a beloved spirit son or daughter of heavenly parents.”

This is a clear statement of doctrine. It means that your identity began before mortality. You are not an accident, and you are not only the product of your earthly circumstances. You are a child of God, and your eternal family includes both a Father and a Mother in Heaven.

The doctrine also teaches something about your future. Heavenly Parents created you with the capacity to learn, grow, make covenants, and become more like Them through Jesus Christ. Knowing that you have a Mother in Heaven can help you understand that womanhood and motherhood have a place in God’s eternal plan, even though we know very little about Her personal life.

Why Has So Little Been Revealed?

The Church’s Gospel Topics essay on Mother in Heaven gathers statements from scripture and Church leaders. It explains that the doctrine is established, but that very little has been revealed about Her identity or role.

That may feel frustrating, especially when you want specific answers. But the lack of information does not mean the doctrine is unimportant. It means we should be careful not to present speculation as revelation.

Elder Jeffrey R. Holland spoke about this subject in “Behold Thy Mother.” His message emphasized the importance of honoring women and recognizing the sacred influence of motherhood.

We can learn from what prophets have said without claiming to know more than the Lord has revealed.

Why Do We Pray to Heavenly Father?

Some people wonder why Church members are taught to pray to Heavenly Father if we also believe in a Mother in Heaven.

The answer is that Jesus Christ taught His disciples to pray to the Father. In the Sermon on the Mount, He repeatedly referred to “your Father which is in heaven” (Matthew 5:16, 45, 48).

Following the Savior’s pattern of prayer is an act of obedience. It is not a statement that Heavenly Mother is less important or less worthy of love. We do not know everything about the responsibilities or roles of our Heavenly Parents, but we can follow the instructions Jesus has given about how to worship and pray.

Questions About Doctrine and Questions About Women

Questions about Mother in Heaven sometimes involve two different concerns.

One concern is doctrinal: What has God revealed about Her? What does it mean to be a child of Heavenly Parents? Why are we not told more?

The other concern is about women’s experiences in the Church. Do women feel heard, respected, and valued? Do Church culture and practice reflect the importance of women in God’s plan?

These concerns can be related, but they are not exactly the same question. If someone has been dismissed, mistreated, or hurt by men in the Church, that experience deserves to be taken seriously. Quoting doctrine too quickly may prevent someone from feeling heard.

Learning more about Mother in Heaven may be part of the question, but it will not answer every concern about how women are treated. Those concerns also require honest conversations, repentance, and changes in behavior when needed.

What We Can Know

We can know that Heavenly Mother is part of the doctrine of the restored gospel. We can know that our eternal identity includes being children of heavenly parents. We can know that God has not revealed everything about Her, and we should not fill in the gaps with speculation.

We can also trust that the Lord gives us what He wants us to have for our growth and salvation. If more is revealed in the future, we can receive it with gratitude. For now, we can live faithfully with what we know.

Questions Worth Considering

• Which of my questions are about doctrine, and which are about whether women are being heard and respected?
• Does the way I think about Mother in Heaven bring me closer to Jesus Christ and the restored gospel?
• What do my identity as a child of Heavenly Parents and my covenants teach me about who I can become?